Dear Natie:

You are welcome. You wrote today: “I don’t know if the confusion is a normal reaction after a breakup of a long term relationship”-

– Maybe. But you suffered from confusion in context of this relationship before the breakup. On July 2, you wrote: “another confusing example is that he always told me he was proud of me and how motivated I am in my career and he feels bad for my bad luck in my unstable jobs but suddenly I was told twice that I was selfish and I put work as a priority .. this is causing me a lot of confusion”.

I don’t know the exact wording of your conversations with him, but if he said X before, and later said Y (Y being the opposite of X)- that’s confusing. If he has been contradicting himself again and again.. then he has been confusing you again and again, before and after the breakup.

anita

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