Dear D,

I am finding it hard to deal with her controlling personality and with the emotional weight of moving back to my mom’s house at age 30.

Has she been controlling in your childhood too? Because her actions could be seen as well-meaning, e.g. if she has a lot of time on her hands and she wants to make it as comfortable for you as possible, and then she re-arranges the furniture etc. But even so, I guess the fact that she didn’t tell you beforehand and didn’t ask for your opinion, is a warning sign.

She might believe she knows better, and doesn’t respect your opinion or your preferences. And this can be hard to deal with, specially if you’re in a fragile place emotionally at the moment, and could use her support rather than this subtle form of dismissal (if this is what you feel is happening?)