Home→Forums→Tough Times→Need some advice, as im so frustrated→Reply To: Need some advice, as im so frustrated
Dear TeaK,
Thank you once again for ur reply.
Aside from the exercise…after a few days, i can feel an impact of “moving on” from that girl.. although only a little… like i’m starting to feel tired thinking of her… but the obsession is still there.. like i still feel uneasy if i look today’s date and it reminded of me that she’s entering uni this october (although due to our city lockdown, she’ll attend the uni online till idk when). Also whenever i see good-looking girls on movies/social media it also reminds me of her.
I dont know what impacted me but right now i’m in the state where i’m tired thinking of relationships… i hope this isnt due to me being affected by her repetitive words that keeps saying “she doesnt want to be in a relationship). I used to be a person who regards relationship as my no 1 priority and source of happiness… even when holidays whenever i saw a beautiful place or scenery i always keep imagining me and my partner enjoying romantic time there… like i keep having that kind of imagination (i always used that girl as the “girl” for that romantic imagination).
I never really enjoyed my holiday as my own self… as i keep imagining those romantic stuffs… now i feel regret… i should’ve enjoyed my holiday thinking only of myself…. And now my city is in lockdown, i cant enjoy holidays….
Although im still having obsession of that girl, now i feel regret liking her for the past few years (i never felt regret before of her, i keep convincing myself that she’s the one)… like i should’ve enjoyed my uni days for my own self… and i’ve wasted it by focusing on her….
Am i on my way of moving on from her if i feel this way?.. although i still have uneasy feeling when i look at her pic…(i hate the fact that she’s goodlooking, i cant deny it).
Why do i have to experience this kind of situation with that girl, if i never fall for her… this obsessive thoughts will not happen…
Although due to separating from her… now my brain gets motivated to go to the gym later on after my city’s lockdown has been lifted… also i start to look after myself more right now… i used to dont care anything about myself because i think i dont deserve it as i’m short. I have a feeling that i view that girl as a rival now… is it weird? Like i keep wanting to impress that girl if i get a new girl later on…, also i wanna show her that i have a better life than her… i really hope it can happen…
I also feel like i need to be “like-able” to other girls… so that it’ll increase my chances…
All i can think is by going to the gym… and fixing my shyness with girls and improve my communication skills with people.
I dont really understand myself why i’m feeling like this now… like i saw her as a rival now… but if she suddenly “said” to me that she wants to reconcile i wouldnt mind that. But i can say that some part of me has lost interest to her.
I know you’d say that this is me overanalyzing again… but do u have a few words regarding this situation of mine? Like maybe u might understand what i’m feeling right now?