Hello Anita

Yes you are right. A bit distant but without being too much. It’s also true that I need to speak about me, what I did, may changes.. independent of her because as you say she may feel guilty or pressure or anything.. It’s also not a light choice for her.
It is also in some exchange of text messages where I will initiate the conversation and offer her to come, I might also start with light messages and good memories that could make smile and light the burden.
Body languages is indeed also very important. Her voice could be weak. I remember when I called her or had her on video it was difficult and was almost always tired due to anti-depressant pills.
Yes asking so would be some attention that she needs.

I understand.I should talk less but better. It’s also not trying to prove everything but that she sees I am attentive. I would like to get interested in her, her family, her friends but she could also be tired and not handle too much.
When I’m talking, it’s also not to always prove what I did, what I changed its’s more informative and a bit distance that she sees it’s for myself too. She would be happy for me and will remember it. You are right language by smile, body is very important and could express and reassure her. Even some moment of silence with those is important.  In that view she can really feel comfortable and not feeling pressure.
Some light subjects such as humour can also help right ? I also learnt her language. I even showed her diploma by picture one week before she makes her decision and she was looking forward to speak together and meet. I think it can be a good idea to be distracted. We won’t have serious conversation because my level is still low but she will be happy. But I remember she told me once she would like I know her language to understand her culture and her family.
This would be very helpful that she feels comfortable and peaceful. And then complicity could be reinstated.

Thank you again, it’s very useful everything you told me.