Dear Felix,

Do u think the way my parents guide me for my future is wrong? Although i know they want the best for me…

They wanted you to take the easier route, because in general, it’s easier to get employed at the family’s company that to have to compete on the job market. They wanted to protect you, and it’s probably because they see you as not capable enough to make it on your own (your mother is mocking you that you get your salary just because you’re your dad’s son, not because you deserve it).

They think they want the best for you, but they don’t, because they (specially your mother) have instilled in you since childhood this notion that you are weak, less capable and a reason to worry. And you indeed adopted this view of yourself, and became lazy, unmotivated, and overly dependent on your parents.

They first made you weak, or contributed to your weakness, and now they are “helping” you by giving you unimportant tasks, treating you like a child. It’s not a healthy approach.

Like what do they want actually…. I know they want me to inherit, but they make it seem like i’m useless…

Yes, that’s the paradox. On one hand, they treat you as useless, and on the other, they would like you to inherit the company. How do they think you could some day lead the company if they don’t trust in your abilities? Perhaps you can ask them that… but what’s for sure is that their attitude is unhelpful if they really want you to succeed and thrive some day.

The question is what you want. If you opt for an MBA, what are you hoping to achieve with it? You say:

If i really study abroad later on… i wanna try taking part time jobs while having my masters… then after graduating i’ll try applying for jobs (in that abroad country) to gain experience….

My interpretation of this is that you’re hoping to gain experience and perhaps some independence from your parents, doing part-time jobs, where you’re not given baby tasks like now, but are treated like an adult. Is that correct? If that’s your goal, I think it’s a good one, and would help you a lot.

During those part-time jobs, you might discover what you like and what suits you best, and you may adjust your career accordingly. Perhaps you get to like those business skills (which so far you don’t like) and either choose to go back to your father’s company, to some kind of managerial position, or you get a job elsewhere, in a good company, which takes you seriously. Or, you realize you absolutely hate business, but you discover what you do like and go into that field, away from your father’s company.

So, having multiple part-time jobs would serve as a catalyst to help you decide what you like best and what career to choose. And being away from your parents would help you gain independence and remove yourself from their smothering influence.

So if I were you, I would look for ways to move away from your parents, at least for a while. If MBA or a similar Masters program offers you this possibility, I’d seriously consider it!