Dear Tineoidea:

About you and M, you wrote: “we connected on other levels and those were flaws I was willing to overlook“. You were strong enough to overlook his possessiveness, strong enough to endure a rocky relationship with him.

Sometime after W entered a relationship with M, she was not strong enough to overlook his possessiveness, and she was not strong enough to endure a rocky relationship with him. She felt too much empathy for him, and too much of a desire to please him. So she pleased his desire to possess her, hoping that he will be satisfied and calm as a result (“She did mention feeling an unexplainable attraction and empathy towards him“).

Regarding M, you wrote: “To him the issue was that she was ‘replacing’ him as my closest friend“- His possessiveness found its satisfaction with W, he finally succeeded to possess someone. And so, he replaced you with her.

As a result of being possessed, W is confused, lost and troubled.

anita