Dear Bianca:

Previously you wrote: “Every time I’m with someone I love and care about my mind says you’re gay and you should tell them“.

I then asked you who are those “someone’s”, and you answered yesterday: “those people would be my parents, grandparents, and favorite cousins”-

– first, reads to me that you are a straight girl who is afraid that she is gay, so afraid that she is confused, but still.. straight. When a time comes that you are no longer afraid, you will no  longer be confused. In other words, it is Fear that Confuses you.

I will combine the two sentences I italicized above: Every time I’m with my parents, grandparents, and favorite cousins whom I love and care about, my mind says: you’re gay and you should tell them.

Is your Fear is about not being worthy of the love of those you care about (parents, grandparents, cousins), as in being afraid that your love for them will not be returned because you don’t deserve it?

anita