Dear Teckin:

You are welcome.

“So, I feel there’s a good side of him too. What do you say?“- if a person had only a bad side then it would be easy to stay away from that person and not suffer from his/ her bad side.

But when a person has a bad side and a good side.. we are less careful and we put ourselves in harm way, suffering from the bad side.

By bad side I am not referring to imperfections or inadequacies, I am referring to a person willingness to hurt another person for selfish reasons, like doing hookups with a person you know wants a serious relationship!

“Are you suggesting I should cut him off completely?“- if he is a selfish person willing to hurt another person so to satisfy his selfish desires.. then yes!

“He kept repeating too that we would be just friends and nothing more“- he may be thinking: just friends for now, nothing more.. for now. More (hookups) later, maybe.

“and he told me the darkest secrets because I am his friend now“- it’s like.. rewarding you as a friend.

“He suggested me going out and meeting other people as well and the same for him“- that’s what he was after if he succeeded to establish a hookup/ FWB relationship with you.

What I am saying is that friendship is only as good as the people participating in the friendship. If he is shady, then the friendship will be problematic for you.

anita