“But then your former friend “turned around” (unlike her brother) and probably started flattering her and praising her”
That’s pretty much the case. She said she’s finally cutting contact with him for good as it only harms her but in the end instead engaged with him further. As things between me and him took a nosedive (I cut him off), it seems he decided to be nice to her and “apologize”, even though this apology just shifted all the blame onto me, that I was the root of all the issues and responsible for his vile behavior.
She had a critical judgement failure and decided to share our relationship issues and her own troubles with him, and she said that he’s been “very kind and supportive”. Even before things between me and her took a nosedive, my former friend told me to “stay away from her” and that I’m “harmful to her”, even though she never expressed anything of the sort and we still engaged in more or less normal conversations, and there was affection. Yet when I confronted her about those nasty things he said, she replied with “I can’t blame him”.
It’s hard to imagine whant kind of mental gymnastics were at work there.
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