* Dear Hailey:

“They threatened me.. I went to sleep that night after calling my bf and I was so much in love with him. And I woke up next day feeling such an emptiness in my mind my brain. I couldn’t even feel anything for my bf“-

– I think that what happened is that you lived in fear (“fear of getting caught“) for two years, then you experienced more intense fear when they did catch you having a secret relationship, and what happened next is that the elevated fear .. killed your feelings of love.

“I’ve been feeling numb toward him for almost a year now“- when we experience too much fear, we go numb/ no longer experiencing loving feelings. It’s natural to react to fear this way.

anita