Dear Teckin:

“I am not sure why I feel like I want to reach out to him. Is it because I like him?“- yes, I think it’s because you like him and because there is no other guy that you like at this time.

“He is a nice person when we are on the phone or in person“- many people are nice and selfish: they are nice because being nice gets them what they want. If a guy wants to have sex with a woman, and nothing but sex, he has way more of a chance to succeed if he is Nice. Nice (but unwilling to commit) is ALL that many men are willing to offer to a woman who wants a committed relationship.

“I texted him yesterday, thanked him for everything, and said I am also confused and not ready for a commitment“- wait, I am confused too: I thought that you were interested in a committed relationship with him, that is, to be his girlfriend: Aug 9 you wrote: “I am confused about whether he is looking for a long-term relationship, a real girlfriend, or just hookups”, and Aug 23, you wrote: “I don’t want to be his hookup-girlfriend”)???

anita