Dear Peace:

You are welcome, and good to read back from you!

You wrote that your older sister advised you to not marry this good man of character, a man who treats you well (“she.. advised me to not marrying him”), and she told you: “Life is yours“- to advise someone means to give someone a recommendation. It does not mean to order someone.  And so, you don’t have to follow her recommendation. You can choose to not follow it.

She also told you that your life is.. indeed yours. This means that your life is not her life, and so make choices according to your values, not according to her values.

She values caste and race (“she.. advised me to not marrying him just because of caste“, “because his mom also looked like mixed african“). You  value character, responsibility, respect and care (“all other good qualities ,about his character , responsible and how he treats and listens to me / care about me”).

Choose love, not prejudice, not racism, not inequality, not unjust traditions and practices!

anita