Dear Elizabeth:

He deserves your anger. All I am saying is that it’s time for you to not be surprised that a turtle is a turtle. The element of surprise refreshes and renews your hurt and anger.

“In one of our many conversations after the break-up, I told him openly about how ashamed I was when I realised I was the only one in the friendship“- this is you thinking he is a puppy at that time, after the breakup: still sharing your feelings with him, imagining that he cares or would care. If you saw him truly as he is after the breakup, you wouldn’t have shared with him how you truly felt.

“I no longer feel this gut-wrenching anger when I see him. I feel both sorry and sad. at our age, burning bridges… really sad. The truth is am a great friend“- he does not deserve the great friend that you are. He does not deserve you sharing your true feelings with him.

When you feel anger at him, allow yourself to feel your anger- it is not a bad feeling and you are not a bad person for feeling it.

“I am working towards indifference“- maybe it will help if you.. literally imagine him to be a turtle, every time you see him.

anita