Oops sorry, I didnt see the name! Thanks for hearing out! When I said the families are involved I meant both set of parents know about us being together, my parents are absolutely okay and happy to have him in our family since they have known him for 12 years and love him and they are also aware that his parents arent okay with this but they still are supporting us with anything and everything and have been waiting patiently for us to get married, my boyfriend also feels a part of ny family but I do feel sometimes that whatever is happening with his parents I might be at the recieving end since I am the only one closest to him, living with him 24/7 I dont think I feel any guilt because I know we havent done anything wrong, his parents havent even met me they dont even know me but still the rejection, his mom has alwsys been the one taking decisions on behalf of the family always and my boyfriend to avoid conflict has always given her an impression that she is in control of his life too which ofcourse is the biggest cause of them not accepting me! But to be in this complication, to lose one’s parents because of this is definitely heart breaking and to see him cry every now and then is also heart breaking. I felt like what if we go ahead with this and somehow I remind him of what he lost, I have already spoken to him about this and he said there is no way I will blame you or look at you as the reason for all this because the reason is only me and my parents and not you, he said he is clear about that and for the past 3 years when the parents fiasco happened we were still able to maintain the sanity in our relationship, it wasnt the same in the start he was too guilty but after few days he became normal and our relationship became the way it was, so may be I am overthinking or may be not I dont know. You said his sexual fantasy might be related to his parents stuff but he first brought this fantasy up 6 years ago when his parents knew nothing and none of the families were involved so may be its not related to his parents rejecting me. But we have had so many obstacles lately, our marriage has been postponed multiple times due to it which makes me think may be the nature is trying to tell me something or I dont know if I am doing the right thing!! Actually I dont know may be I am thinkimg too much and feel drained!