Dear Anonymous
Unfortunately, emotionally attaching to someone that you’re not in a relationship with is very risky. She set boundaries by refusing to acknowledge a relationship and when someone does that they’re unlikely to change their mind.
There is a culture of friends with benefits these days. Some people string things along enough to keep things going as long as they’re getting something out of communication and meeting up.
My recommendation is that you learn from this experience and look out for warning signs such as these in future partners. You can easily protect yourself simply by moving on when a partner doesn’t show an appropriate level of interest.
There are many people out there who are genuinely seeking relationships. I’m sure future relationships will bring new challenges. I hope you enjoy the journey.
A few questions to ask yourself. What do you appreciate in a potential partner? What do you want from a relationship? What don’t you want from a relationship? Do you find yourself attracted to unavailable people? If so, you might want to explore why.
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