Dear Cat:

I wanted to add that I am aware that you want me/ other people to agree with you that Magic is the-bad-guy in this situation, and that you’ve been his victim. I ended my last post to you giving in a bit to what I believe to be your expectation, and in so doing, I wasn’t genuine enough. I want to correct myself: you were both wrong in this situation, harming each other. In this situation, you were both mentally unwell: him being off his antipsychotic medications, you- displaying the BPD dynamics and behaviors I mentioned in my post before last. He triggered your BPD; you triggered his psychosis… not a good situation.

“His dad asked me to stay away in case I triggered Magic or made it worse” – excellent idea.

Because of your diagnosed BPD, it is very important that in regard to romantic prospects, you will be careful: get to know the man before you get involved with him, so to see that he is not the kind of guy that is likely to greatly trigger your BPD. Even in a relationship with a man who is least likely to trigger you, you will still have to be aware/mindful, able to think as objectively as you can (CBT exercises promote that), regulate your emotions and exercise reasonable self-control over your behaviors.

anita