Dear Girija:

You are welcome. “I guess the fear is of suffering… I think it is fear that something will be too much for me, in this case it is, and wanting to not go through it again. Not wanting my mom to be down. I don’t want to see her devastated again” –

– when you think of your mother being devastated again, you get scared. What scares you is not your mother being devastated again because it didn’t happen yet. What scares you is the THOUGHT that she will be devastated if the result is bad. When you are not thinking about it, you are not scared of this particular fear. So, what scares you is a THOUGHT.

When the thought appears again, think- a moment ago I didn’t think this, and I was therefore not afraid of this. Nothing real changed since a moment ago, so… it’s only a thought that scared me. And then, let go of the thought because it’s only a thought.

Once in a while, reintroduce to yourself the thought that better you accept the things you cannot change with as much serenity as possible for you at any moment.

anita