Anita,

He does not seem to be struggling financially.  In fact he does quite well for himself to the best of my knowledge.  We have never shared expenses before and have never gone on any trips.  Typically we go back and forth with dinner costs etc so it is somewhat even.

I have never had any discussions in depth on what each of us make but I do know his divorce was expensive.  I’m just thinking I need to be up front with him and say hey – I’m a single mom and I can’t afford the cost of these types of trips.  We can skip the massages and I can give you $200. I don’t think I need to tell him how much I make salary wise- not right now anyway.

It seems rude of me to say hey you invited me and now you are asking to pay.  I’m 100% positive this was an issue in his marriage.  I think he wanted to split everything with her but details of that I’m not sure.  I know they split chores 50/50…so take it from there maybe.

Lindsey