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Arie1276
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update:   this was our convo.  It is quite lengthy and I need guidance.  Im so heart broken over this.

So this morning i texted him.  I said my usual good morning and hope you are having a great day. Then he didn’t respond.  I then texted him  How are you doing today.  He replied : Annoyed and depressed.  I asked “why are you annoyed and annoyed about what sweetie”.  He replied “I just wanna be left alone” I asked him “what do you mean by left alone”  He said “just left alone”.  I asked him if I annoyed him.  He said “by everyone”.   I replied “I care thats why I text you”.  Then he said “Its probably best you find someone else”.  ME: i dont want anyone else.  I refuse to give up on you”  HIM: Its over.  ME:  Don’t do this, we can get through this, you told me you loved me, that  i was the best thing to come into your life, you would never hurt me or break my  heart, wanted a future with me.  HIM:  I can’t  ME: I don’t understand how you can just give up on us so easily on a a great person who loves you, stand by you during your ups and downs, has your back, support you, willing to have a future with you, willing to be with you regardless of your depression and your other issues.  We both made each other very happy.  Please think about this and don’t let me go or us go “.  HIM:  its better for us both trust me    ME:  why do you say that, is there someone else, will you ever come back to me?   HIM:  I wanna be alone   I asked him if he would ever date me again.  He said in a relationship no and wants to be alone.  Then he changed his mind and said he has no idea and best thing is to see other ppl and I told him I understood that and I only want him .  He said he doesn’t think he wants a monogamous relationship.  I was bawling my eyes out like a darn baby.   IT hurt so bad to hear that coming from him.  I feel like an empty shell.  I told him not to forgive up on me, and he told me it wasnt me and how our convo was stressing him out and its the last thing he needs.  I told him I loved him and always will and we agreed to be friends for now and we will see about hanging out.  He said he’s just not meant to be monogamous.  Then i said ” OK fine.  Someday you will look back on us and will eralize you let a great person like me go.  You will miss me and you will think you dont now, but you will miss me as I will miss you terribly. But we can be friends and Im ok with that.  I love you.  Have a great Day!”   No reply back.  I have not texted or called him since.  Does he even realize what he has done?  This has to be hurting him too.   I still can’t wrap my head around all this and what happened. I blame his mom. Something triggered his depression after that horrible morning/day .   I love him and wish none of this happened and I wish he will get his head straight and realize what he has done to me and our relationship.