Hi Arie
I’m very sorry for the pain you are going through. It might not seem like it right now, but this might be for the best. As he is a person who I would imagine regularly drops out of contact continuing this relationship would have been challenging. Someone who is able to be present would be a better fit.
It is a shame because it almost sounds like two different relationships. One where he was present and attentive. Another, where he drops out of contact with you, is depressed and grumpy when you do speak.
It is understandable to grieve the loss if the good parts of the relationship. I hope you are taking extra care of yourself during this difficult time?
Do you have any fears regarding being single? Or related to dating?
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