David,

I’m quite certain that with a therapist and learning about that addiction through reading and sharing with others who have overcome that lifestyle that you CAN move on.

Whilst amends are important for most, being in constant contact with her or even thinking you could work through it together would be like 2 alcoholics in early recovery without the appropriate support trying to keep each other sober – just doesn’t work.

You need to discuss deeper matters with your therapist which you are acting out with your sexual preferences and behaviours. That’s my opinion anyway.