Dear Lindsey:

What I read about his divorce reminds me of the movie The War of The Roses, did you watch it? I don’t know who of the 2 of them admits to wrongdoing or not, but the reason for the acrimony between them could be just greed, or mostly greed: each of them wants more money and more material things.

“Many people feel that pot is not a drug.  I think it is-but so is Xanax, alcohol, etc.” – pot is a mood-altering drug, and so is Xanax and alcohol and coffee. There is a mood-altering drug in chocolate (cocoa), in small amounts.

Some mood-altering drugs are natural (ex., pot, morphine), others are partly synthetic (ex., heroin) or fully synthetic (ex., fentanyl). The idea behind psychiatric mood-altering drugs being preferrable to illegal mood-altering drugs is that you can count on the fact that each tablet of prescribed 1 mg of Xanax contains exactly 1 mg of the drug, and no other drug. On the other hand, the manufacturing of illegal drugs is not regulated, and you don’t know how much of a particular drug is in a certain weight or volume, or if there is an extra drug added to it. I read that 100,306 people in the US died from overdose April 2020 – April 2021 (CDC), many of them involved fentanyl.

“I think I am making a big deal about little things sometimes.  I tell myself his bad mood as nothing to do with me and it does not” – you tend to catastrophize, we talked about it. His divorce sounds messy, that’s probably what’s behind his bad mood.

“He mentioned maybe getting together over the weekend b/c we will not see each other for about 2 weeks” – why won’t you see each other for two weeks?

“My brain is kind of beat but I will have the weekend to myself” – I wonder if watching The War of the Roses this weekend, with him or without him, is a good idea… maybe it is too intense, particularly for him… but maybe it will make him feel better, I don’t know.

anita