Dear Lindsey:

I woke up to a severe sounding windstorm and rain this Monday morning, but now it is strangely quiet, the trees are still, nothing moves. Talking about things moving, there is a movement in your emotions, a wanting more: more of him in your life, more commitment (maybe living together, maybe getting married…?).

This development is on one hand natural, because you “always have fun together”, and wanting more fun is natural; on the other hand, this development is sometimes, maybe often, a turning point in a fun relationship because one partner starts pressuring the other to commit, and following ongoing stress, the once-fun relationship languishes in un-fun and anger before it ends.

Think of your relationship as a chocolate cake, wanting more and more can lead to the cake … being gone!

anita