Dear Helcat:

“What made you decide to cut contact?” – because I deserved someone to care for me, someone to do what’s right for me. Remember she told me to look down at the floor when she humiliated me in so many ways? It was time for me to look up and walk away from her for good. It’s a matter of self-respect; finally, respect for me!

I don’t really understand what kind of verbal abuse you are currently experiencing and by whom, nor do I understand who is arguing with whom and about what… or what you mean by “being les defensive” and being less defensive with whom?

anita