Hi David

It’s good to hear that you are moving on.

Your situation reminds me in a round about way of a relative. Her husband beat her for 10 years. She finally had the courage to demand that he stop and he did. Then she started beating him. He complained and asked her to stop. She said I’ll stop in 10 years.

10 years is a long time to be in a relationship with someone and people say it takes half the length of the relationship to get over it. Your ex experienced a lot of pain throughout your relationship and despite that she was unwilling to let you go.

What you are doing now is the kindest thing you can do for both of you. When she is no longer in contact, in time you will both have the chance to move on.

This is a big step for you! Well done. I’m sure that you and your therapist will accomplish some great things together.