Dear Tobi:

I just read your most recent post:

“Should I try to calm down and try to love myself more before I start to love someone else?” – yes, similar to what I suggested in my last post, help yourself= love yourself.

“Should I once a week get her gifts to remind her I’m still around for her? I won’t contact her directly. I’ll just ask her sister to help me deliver” – I don’t think that it’s a good idea. It would make you appear like a beggar perhaps, one who begs her to love you. One should never beg to be loved.

“She told me that she broke up with her first bf… He seemed to not be able to give her the space and time that she wanted. If I do the opposite (give her space and time as much as she wants), will things turn out to be good for us?” – this is your best bet, seems to me. Give her all the space and time that she wants, and more, and take good care of yourself!

anita