Dear Tobi:

It is my hope that you will no longer try to contact her, her sister, her mother or any one of her family and friends.

I find it strange that a psychologist told you today that you “should be fine as long as (you) don’t continue thinking about this relationship” – a psychologist should be familiar with the phenomenon of obsessive thinking and how for those obsessed, it is very, very difficult to stop thinking about the topic of their obsession.

If you find yourself obsessing about her again, please see a mental health professional who is familiar with the topic of obsessive thinking: there are therapies available and psychiatric medications if needed. Also, there are online sources in regard to managing anxiety and obsessing thinking, as well as self-help books: a quick google led me to a book titled “Stop Obsessing“, and another, “Take control of your life“, which is about “tackling the fear of change, rejection, and being alone”, it reads.

anita