Dear kaia:

“He  starts therapy soon” – good thing, he needs quality therapy and I hope he gets it! From what you shared I see nothing to indicate that he is a bad guy, a dishonest guy or anything like that. He reads like a good guy, and that a combination of his anxiety about flying (“He said he… has always been anxious about flying”), the many cancellation and 12 hours at the airport on the way to you, getting covid, being quarantined in your home, you testing positive… all that caused his anxiety to sky rocket, and understandably so!

I suggest that you don’t engage in heavy duty conversations with him at this time, that you do your best to be gentle and empathetic with him, and that you give his therapy time to work. What do you think of my suggestions?

anita