Dear Irin:

“And if I leave will it just happen again?” – I can’t predict the future, of course, but it might happen again. In-love feelings wax and wane over the months and years: their intensity changes, from most intense (100%) to a lower intensity, then up again.. down… sometimes gone.

But you didn’t describe your 25 years of marriage as a wax and wane dynamic, but as a same-intensity, total (100%) intensity of in-love feelings: “completely, totally .. in love for 25 years“. You mean that for a quarter of a century your in-love feelings for your husband were always of the same 100% intensity?

anita