Dear Sun:

I understand how it happened that you felt that your mother chose your step father over you. Young children’s brains are free from past life experiences that could distort seeing current reality as it is, and so, they perceive what is happening correctly, just as it really is. Your mother really did choose a man over you. I know of mothers who chose men over their children in many ways, and it always hurts the child to not be chosen by his (or her) mother. When mothers do that, it is never because their child is worthless of love but because they (the mothers) are selfish.

“l feel worthless of love like I didn’t experience the love of both my parents and another thing… my father has denied access to when I was young only started talking to him now“- You feel worthless of love but you are worthy of love. The adults in your life (your mother, the ones in her family who decided to deny access to your father, your father) made a few major decisions based on what they wanted and how they felt,  not  based on what’s best for the child (you)

“I always wanted someone like a father to help me understand to teach me how to love a women , how to take care of them , what qualities a men should have?“- I mentioned being selfish, above. One quality you should have in regard to a relationship with a woman is to not be selfish. Also, you should find a woman who is not selfish. And when you and the woman have children, you should make major decisions based on what will be best for your children.

How is my guidance so far? If you like it, I have more.

anita