Dear Arie1276:

“I don’t think it’s all about sex“- I am not the member who suggested that it was about sex, or that it was all about sex. But I will not be surprised if sex is part of his interest in friendship with you.

“Why do ex’s want to be friends with the girls they broke up with?   Its very confusing for me“- how about asking him, his answer can give you the clarity that you need. I very much dislike being confused, so I take every opportunity to ask questions and gain clarity. Also, it is easy to take advantage of a confused person, so clarity is very important.

“Then he called me mamacita.  I don’t know what that means“- it means “little mother” in Spanish.

“I want to get my hopes up but I know if I do , I will be back to I was the first day… He was telling me all about… And he sent a smile emoji.    He asked me if I made lasagna cause that is his favorite thing I made for him… Part of me wants to believe he will get back together with me and the other part is so confused“- you have to find out what his motivation is, what is it that he wants from you, or with you before you get invested in any one assumption.

“I will talk to him face to face which is better than text in my opinion.   I want to know what his intentions are.  He and I have a lot to talk about“- prepare for that conversation, type out questions to ask him, so to become clear about his  motivation or motivations..

“He asked me to visit him in Florida and to stay with him.   It sounds tempting.   But I will wait till he comes here in a few weeks.  Only time will tell.  He still knows i love him very much“- better you don’t travel to Florida and wait for him to visit you, like you plan to do. I understand that you love him very much, it’s just that you don’t want your love to be used against you. Please post again with any updates or questions.

anita