Dear KP:

“I would as if purposely choose a guy with whom I can’t be together or just deny people who show interest. I do want someone in my life but I am feeling as if I don’t want it either“- reads like on one hand, you want a relationship, but on the other hand, you are afraid of having a relationship. So, you are Conflicted and therefore, Confused.

“I have been through a lot of relationships. Most of them ended badly“- you are afraid that yet another relationship will end badly, aren’t you?

A person’s first and most powerful relationship is not with a romantic partner, but with one’s parent, or primary caretaker. Usually it’s the mother. How was your relationship with your mother when you were growing up?

anita