Dear Anita

Had time to process things and here is what I have come up with.

1. I’m not ready to meet his children or his mother (father is out of the picture. Mother lives in Chicago (3 hours away and sisters live out of state)  He does not have close relationship with them. I have meet one of his friends.  He does not seem to have many friends that he goes off with.  He is going on a trip at the end of the both with friends golfing but they all live out of state.

2. I was putting more importance on him wanting to meet my kids because it would make me feel good.

3. He did not ask for the $250 when I went over to his home last night- a plus for sure.  I am going to start cooking dinner more and encouraging him to cook dinner versus going out.  I am not going to offer to pay for things as much.  Really I am in charge of my actions financial wise.

4. I deleted my social media.  I discussed with him and think that the photos of our trip are personal.  I do not think I was posting for the right reasons. Hard to admit while writing but I was wanting to show off I had a boyfriend and went on a trip maybe for my ex to find out.  He agreed that the photos were very personal which is why he does not post much on facebook.

5. We both agreed that the stress from our ex has an impact on us emotionally and can be draining.

Lindsey