Dear Sushmita:

Poor, sleepless and abused Sushmita! I hope that you are sleeping now, it being 6:14 am in India. I am not clear about something: is your mother abusing you because she thinks that you still want to marry the guy? What if you tell her that you are done with him and that there will be no marriage (which is practically true), will she then leave you alone?

And about pushing her, that was an understandable reaction to her repeatedly pushing herself into your very small personal space, I see no guilt on your part.

anita