Dear Ivygrl:

Good to read from you again, Ivygrl.

Five days ago, I asked you: “Can you explain to those who wish to reply to your satisfaction, what you mean by ‘an opinion based. and specific written format’?” and in your post today you answered my question: “the ‘opinion based, specific’ formats I want so desperately, are that I need YOUR opinion, and it has to be detailed because no one give my answer the proper angle (I) want it to be. They also have to give me advice based on those questions! The advice has to be in a long message format, not short and boring… I want specific and detailed answers,  and answer my questions!”

Okay, Ivygrl, I’ll try (I’ll use BIG PRINT at times, hoping that it will make my reply less boring):

“a forum website did a permanent ban with my account…  I spam and harass at that site because no one takes me seriously“- my STRONG OPINION is that no one should spam and harass people on any site as well as in real-life.

“When there’s one person at school crying, it’s like they know a secret about crying that can help you fit in and not spread negativity! What could that secret be? Are they wizards who knows better than me?“- the secret may be to cry but to CONTAIN the crying, meaning, to not scream and yell and harass people while crying.

“So far I have no doctor who can help me figure out my conditions!!!“- there has to be a doctor somewhere that can and will figure out your conditions! Clearly, from what you shared IMPULSE CONTROL is one of your conditions/ challenges.

“I’m not a baby I am better than her“- think EQUAL to her, not better.

“I know I’m not supposed to bully others, but I’m sick of letting my ‘friend’ follow me every time. What do you think I should do?“- I think you should NOT BULLY other people no matter what. Instead ASSERT yourself: tell the friend in a strong voice (not too loud though):  do not follow me! If she keeps following you, tell a teacher or a supervisor: I told her to not follow me but she is still following me. It makes me feel very uncomfortable that she is following me. How can I make her stop following me?

“I’m either passive or passive-aggressive. And I don’t have time to be too assertive to others when I’m upset“- find the time to be ASSERTIVE because being passive or passive-aggressive will NOT work for you!

“I want to win school contests and challenges like these people. And I am smart, but I lose in these contests or challenges. How do I win???“- to win, RELAX first and go about the contests and challenges in a more relaxed state of mind. If you want something too strongly, too passionately, you are less likely to get it.

“Do you have any journaling advice and ideas on how to be comfortable with a journal and making comics? I like Youtubers, but no one in Twitter or YouTube ever likes me. And when I ask for twitter info, they refuse to listen. I really need help with this, what can I do so that I can be a better writer and comic artist? Besides the story I wrote one time???“- I don’t have a journaling advice, nor do I have advice on how you can be a better writer and a comic artist. But I do have advice on how you can get people who can help you to give you the advice and information that you need:

Ask for others’ advice on Twitter and elsewhere NICELY, POLITELY. Don’t DEMAND it. If  a responder did not answer one of your questions, politely ask your question again in a second message. If you tend to ask too many questions in one message, limit the numbers of questions so that responders don’t get overwhelmed with too many questions. If you send messages that are too long, limit the length of your messages so that responders don’t get overwhelmed with a message that is too long..

“I don’t know how to stop being hard on myself, and I don’t know how to start acceptance. It’s getting out of my control. What can I do?“- First, RELAX, best you can, as often as possible. Second, seek PROFESSIONAL HELP regarding your impulse control challenge.

“Thank you, From, Ivygrl“- you are welcome, Ivygrl. Post again any time you want me to reply, and I will!

anita