Hi Anita,

Really good pointers! Glad I’m asking before, my message with him not being interested was defensive and came from a very dysregulated state. Definitly not a good idea.

Apologizing for my behaviour, showing that i really apreciate his effort. Tell him i like him find a way to say i think we both struggle with letting people close (showing him we have a lot in common)

And really importantly keep it simple like you said attention defeceit.