Dear marie:

You believe that while you were away for the summer, once your roommate and love interest (I’ll refer to her as H) broke up with her  boyfriend, your mutual friends should have notified you, so that you would have had the opportunity to tell H how you feel and see if she will have a relationship with her. What happened instead, is that another friend (I’ll refer to him or her as F) who also had feelings for H, did not give you the opportunity to approach H first, and instead approached her first, ahead of line, so to speak.  Did I understand correctly?

anita