Dear marie:

If F (and others of the friend circle) told H that you have feelings for her, and H responded that she doesn’t and that she is not interested in a relationship with you, then neither F nor the others had a responsibility to ask your permission for H to have a relationship with F  because there is no such thing as a first-come-first served rule when it comes to romantic relationships.

“Everyone gets to move on and I’m the one betrayed and hurt“- I don’t know you but I still feel bad that you feel hurt and left out, yet.. I don’t see a real betrayal, not if H was told that you were interested in her and she responded that she wasn’t.  What do you think?

anita