Dear Katrine,

It comes on top of one the girls (the one adding pressure on me before the date) asking people to join her after work for drinks (last friday and today) but didn’t included me. Do now i feel both heartbroken and like i am slowly being cut off for some reason.

I see now how you feel rejected on two levels – both by him and by this colleague who didn’t invite you to go for drinks with the rest of the group. You feel excluded and rejected. And this bring up the old wound: of feeling worthless. That’s why this has been so painful for you.

As I said, it’s the consequence of childhood trauma. We can talk about it some more…