Dear Eric:

Congratulations for a 3rd god date! Nice initiative regarding the chocolate, you really are fun and creative and (like she told you), full of ideas!

“my hair look so messy…  I’m pretty sure my hair is messy… I keep getting thoughts that she might told her friends/her sister about this third date… then they look the pic where my hair look messy…. They could advise her to stop contacting me because I look like that“- shall I call this one the Messy Hair Obsession (acronym MHO), similar to the old Too Short Obsession (TSO) and Too Small Family Obsession (TSFO) and the I-Made-a-Mistake Obsession (IMaMO)… and the recent Too Small  Cake Obsession (TSCO), etc.,… all leading to the She-Will-Reject-Me Obsession?

I would like you to join me in adopting a bit of humor when it comes to your worries and obsessions, it can help weaken them!

“When I got home after that date, I felt mentally exhausted again idk why. I enjoyed the date but it’s exhausting. Idk if it’s because I look messy in that standing pic…. What I need to find out is why do I feel exhausted… I always enjoyed our date, but at the same time exhausting… It could be more exhausting…  today I feel exhausted idk why“-

– On Oct 15 (page 1 of this thread), you mentioned feeling exhausted after the first date, and in my reply to you on the same day, I talked about the reasons for your exhaustion in the 3rd and 4th paragraphs. Will you please read those paragraphs and let me know if you agree with what I wrote there, and/ or if you have other thoughts as to the reasons of your mental exhaustion following dates with her?

anita