Dear Kaya:

You are welcome. I am glad that I asked you this question in my last reply, which you answered in your most recent post, otherwise I wouldn’t have known that the man you’ve been trying to reconcile with has been verbally-emotionally abusive to you: he told you that you “always have problems”, that you are “too old… crazy, need to go to a mental hospital”, that you “need to go to a mental hospital…  Too many negative words during this relationship but not always“-

– do you want to reconcile with him because he doesn’t always abuse you?

You wrote and asked in your post before the most recent: “There are lots of my belonging at his house so, want to pick these up…  I think my anxiety or negative feeling are attached to him and I need to let them go…. Is this make sense to you?“-

–  Yes, it makes sense to me that your mental health will improve if let him and the relationship go, and if you pick up a very important belonging that doesn’t belong to him: your self-esteem and worth!

anita