Dear lk09,

believe it or not, I was thinking about you the other day, and thought to ping you around Christmas… but anita was faster 🙂

I am glad you’re doing fine and are satisfied with you new job, which pays better. And that you had a chance to go on a 3-week workcation. I can imagine beaches in India are amazing! Also glad that you made new friends! (no potential candidates among them, huh? 🙂 )

But the thing is I needed to experience him when I did. I believe we are meant to meet people at a certain point in time to make certain incidents happen. I would perhaps have no financial standing even now had I not met him.

You mean he encouraged you to study for your masters degree, and so now you can get better paying jobs? Sorry, I don’t remember it clearly, but I do remember you mentioned something like that…

Otherwise, well, we are attracted to certain people because we have some emotional wounds… and we might stay for too long in the relationship, because of those wounds… But if learn from those experiences and not repeat them, it’s all good. They have served their purpose.

Am I healed? No, I feel like I have a lot of demons but I need some more time before I hear them patiently.

Hmmm, I wouldn’t say you have demons. It was he who had them, in form of addictions…. I’d rather say you have wounds… But I don’t want to go deeper into heavy topics, unless you’d want me to.

If you feel that what I wrote this summer is mostly true, then I hope that you will go into your next relationship with more assertiveness and self-respect. Not to allow the same patterns to repeat again. You are precious and worthy, don’t forget that! And you have the right to be with a man who will see you and treat you that way.