Hi Tricia –

I’m sorry for the pain you are feeling. Breakups can be very painful, especially if you have abandonment issues.

I just want to say – you need to put yourself first. He showed you that he doesn’t care about you by the way he treated  you. So now you must look out for yourself. This doesn’t mean you need to harbor any bitterness toward him;  you just need to see him as not important to you any more. So – if being friends with him is good for you and makes you feel loved and happy, then be his friend If not, then I would just tell him you know longer want to be his friend and just walk away. Focus on other people at work who are friends to you, and of course remember your best friend is always yourself. I have tried to be friends with an ex, and I realize it was always for him not for me. You deserve better. He doesn’t deserve your friendship.