PS I also gave him the ultimatum to see a counselor at The first of the year. We’ve seen one together but we didn’t get far. I saw a counselor at the beginning of our marriage and did a ton of personal work and gif myself in a very centered peaceful place. He never once wanted to know about my progress or discussed it with me even when I tried to. He’s got work to do personally amd I told him he had to see a counselor at the beginning of the year. He did but he used the time to construct the narrative that I was the bad guy for “making him go” and came out on the other end angry and bitter at me.
I pretty much don’t have anything left and am ready to move forward with my life in peace.