* Dear Tee: I wish you full recovery from Covid sooner than later!

Dear Addy:

I read Tee’s most recent post (I read all her posts in all of the threads), and I very much agree with it, particularly with “it seems to me that you believe… that you need to fake it in relationships“. I felt that you were faking it with me, in the context of our online interactions, many times, and I often felt uncomfortable as a result. I will preface the following by saying that this is my personal experience with your writing; I am not saying that every person feels or would feel like I do:

You presented yourself as overly positive: two of many examples, Oct 2: “Dear Anita: I hope you’re having great Sunday morning (a smiley sun emoji)”-  a nice Sunday morning would be enough for me. Wishing me a GREAT morning feels exaggerated, and makes me wonder: do you have great weekends? Oct 22: “Dear Anita, Hope you’re having a happy weekend“- do you have happy weekends? Is Addy’s life happy and great, and he therefore wishes the same for me?

If (in another dimension) I was your age and I was your long-distance girlfriend, and this is how you opened your communications with me, I would feel inadequate for not having great and happy weekends myself, wondering:  what’s wrong with me for not having weekends as happy and as great as Addy’s?

While I am at it, examples: Oct 2: “Dear Anita. How was your weekend?“, Oct 29: “Dear Anita: How are you? Good Plans for the weekend?” – too close, too friendly, we are not that close. Feels Fake to me.

anita