Dear Farnaz:

“Although they weren’t nice to their children they were decent people in general, ethically“- good thing for the other people, the people in general.

“Once I was home in summer break, my dad and I were arguing over her behavior, and he said very angrily..  if (I) was a good daughter, he wouldn’t get married…it was obvious to me that he wasn’t really happy with his marriage… Once when we were alone, I almost begged him to tell me the truth about his marriage…  but he was adamant that his wife is so perfect“-

– reads like the relationship between you and your father- after your mother’s death, if not before- was somewhat emotionally incestuous.  Are you familiar with the term emotional incest aka covert incest?

anita