Dear Farnaz:

Yes, saying that if you were a better daughter, he wouldn’t have married a wife.. is comparing a daughter to a wife: that sounds like emotional incest on his part. You can google emotional incest (there is a book about it as well) and see if any of it fits your story…?

If there is something to it, I figure that your negative experience with men as an adult, in the romantic context, is significantly affected by this.

anita