Dear Eric:

“There are some things that’s unexpected or out of my control….Do u think to avoid overthinking on unexpected situations, I should just think it this way what’s meant to be will be’?“- in regard to things that are unexpected and out of your control, it would be beneficial to think this way.

“if her sister suggested her to not continue with me, and she accepts her advice, This is out of my control right?“- yes, her sister’s words and choices as well as your girlfriend’s words and choices are out of your control.

“Every time I finish calling her, I always feel that I shouldn’t say some of those words, like I feel I should just keep quiet on some of those words I said, cause those words might probably cause a discussion which might create a probability of a crack in the relationship“- words can be powerful, but not as powerful as you think. In your mind, each word you say is or can be very powerful, but for the person listening to you, most of your words are not powerful- not in their minds: they forget much of what you say and remember only the special parts of what you said.

“There are also some boys who texted her, but she told me that she ended the conversation with them because she only wants me… she ended the conversation with them, because all she wants is me,  I’m so grateful“- I bet you will always remember this special part of what she said: that she only wants you. and that you forgot already some other things she said. Some words are powerful and memorable, others are not. No one’s brain can remember EVERYTHING someone says.

“she’s a person who tends to go with the flow, that’s why she seldom overthinks. I just hope this type of mindset of her won’t create any future problems“- it seems like you are not aware of how much of a problem overthinking is, and that not overthinking is not a problem at all. Not thinking can create problems, not overthinking  cannot create problems in the future.

“Should I tell our relationship to public? To avoid her being texted by guys which could make me overthinking“? – making your relationship public will cause you to overthink about other potential dangers to the relationship. She told you earlier that she is not ready to make the relationship public, so if I was you, I would wait until she brings it up and is ready to make it happen.

“If I show my relationship with her to public,  It’ll causes lots of people to talk about us, like many of her friends might ask her ‘who is he’“- like I said right above, if the relationship with her is public, you will overthink then just as you overthink now. You overthink not because the relationship is public or not, or because boys texted her or any such thing. You overthink because you suffer from ocd, which is a disorder in your brain.

You cannot get rid of overthinking by .. overthinking. There are beneficial ways to manage and even heal from ocd, ways that doctors and psychotherapists recommend. No professional though will recommend that you heal from obsessive thinking by .. obsessively thinking.

“I also have introduced her to my family, and the meeting went well, and surprisingly she said my family is funny… I never thought she’ll be happy with my family atmosphere“- many of your worries, your overthinking about worst case scenarios do not come true, try to remember this when you overthink worst case scenarios.

“Tbh being very cautious is a very hard thing to do, I always feel like I made a mistake every time I interact with her, but I still want to stick with my ways to keep being cautious to protect our relationship“- to be reasonably cautious is beneficial, to be unreasonably and obsessively cautious is detrimental.

“I love her more and more. I don’t want to lose someone this precious. I feel very lucky meeting her… I even told her, to just keep giving me the opportunity to love her, I want to show her how much I cherish her“- Tbh (a term you use), she is lucky to have you… as long as you don’t let your overthinking harm her and the relationship with her. Again, being cautious in moderation is beneficial, being cautious to the extremes/ being obsessively cautious is… detrimental.

I am so  happy that you are experiencing being loved, this is wonderful… try to take it all in and find comfort- and joy- in it.

anita