Dear Arie1276:

Thank you! I wish you had a better beginning of this year. Good thing your son is doing better, so that’s one positive thing. In regard to your new husband, in this new year- not good. I understand why he would want to work out in the gym and that lots of uber driving takes place at night and in the weekends, but I also understand that you are alone most of the time and you feel lonely.

“I am feeling like he isn’t spending enough time with me“- it’s not just a feeling, he really isn’t spending enough time with you, not even close to how much time you want to spend with him.

“And when I’m on the phone with him, if his friends call, he will tell me he will call me back. Shouldn’t I come first before his friends?“- yes, normally, unless a friend of his is experiencing an emergency of some sort.

“But 3-4 hours at a gym?????????? I work full time, come home, clean up after him cause he’s messy, cook dinner, which he doesn’t even eat because he says he does not want to feel full before he goes out to work or goes to bed. I do all the laundry, grocery shopping“- this is a woman’s traditional role in some cultures (outside the fact that you work full-time): the man goes out and about, doing what he needs and wants to do; the woman stays home and provides the man with a neat, clean place in-between his comings and goings.

“He can tell I haven’t been myself lately. And all I tell him is that I’m ok but actually I’m not ok“- maybe you should tell him that you are not okay..?

anita