Dear Katrine Nielsen:

You are welcome to submit as many posts as you would like to submit, and at any length, as far as I am concerned. It is so very unfortunate for you (and I wish it wasn’t the case) that so many people in your life so far, have been significantly or severely mentally disturbed and disturbing, or unfortunate otherwise: one of your grandmothers (“My grandmother had a personally disorder“), your mother (“She been on the edge for years.. My mom has untreated trauma“), your father (“Both my parents had severe traumas in their earlier lives“), your sister (“She is brain damage and has been for 23 years… She was screaming from pain sometimes up to 20 hours a day… Her leaning to one side and having one leg shorter than the other was noticeable to outside family and the doctors.. she needed 4 disc removed  that they performed the surgery… The biggest issue is her being in a pain all the time. Extreme headaches and her vision is affected by it… She does have a lot of narcissistic tendencies“), Peers in school (“I was 12 to 15 years old. A group of boys were violent (one girl became hearing impaired in one ear)..the boys had some episodes of violence. One of them had their wrist slashed right in front of me“), your former boss (“I than had a two year apprentice with a boss who tics of every box of being a psychopath“), an adult friend (“The friend… also suffer from mental health problems due to childhood trauma (she’s diagnosed with BPD)“), and your love-interest (“He has a lot of issues, he lost 4 kilos in just one week, the drinking sometimes gets High, anxiety..  his ocd is so bad that my colleagues girlfriend (who also works) here is nervous about living with him“).

You can’t change the family you were born to, neither can you change the people and events in your past, not any more than I can change these things in my life, but I sure hope that you meet healthier people (not perfectly healthy, of course, because such a thing does not exist), and that as a result, you will be able to have healthier relationships… and a boyfriend for the first time in your life: this will be exciting to read about, and exciting for you to experience, I am sure! I wish you healthier people and healthier relationships in this new year!

anita